The first thing my wife asked me this morning was, “Where’s the tools you promised?” It sounded like the kind of question I get when returning from grocery shopping. That being said, one of the benefits of working on anything as a couple is accountability to one another. I know I don’t always seem thankful when Cindy holds me on task, but I should be. It’s so easy to procrastinate if I’m only accountable to myself. I love to play racquetball and do so three times a week, it’s great exercise and I’ve played with the same guy for over twenty years. But the reason I don’t sleep in and never miss a game is that I’m accountable to a dear friend of over twenty years. I think one of the best “tools” we can use to help us stay on track as couples is accountability to each other. When the alarm goes off, oh so very early, Cindy gets up and bangs around the bedroom as if to say, “Are you going to get out of bed to pray with me or are you just going to lay there?” She is encouraging me to be accountable!
Once we have been joined together in marriage we literally become as one (Gen 2:24, Eph 5:31), fully accountable to each other. There are numerous examples of this unique condition found in civil law. Legal documents describe a husband and wife as being held “joint and several” with respect to legal commitments made by them. The law views them as one, and accountable as one. God designed marriage to be permanent and to be seen as a couple, Continue reading
